After months of frustrating, sweet, and downright weird dating experiences, you’re finally ready to put your life as a single person behind you and commit to a wonderful person. Congratulations are surely in order. However, if you both met on sites like Match, OkCupid, or eHarmony, you have to deal with an extra little matter: how and when to bring up mutually shutting down your accounts. Here are some tips to get you started.
10. Change Your Status on the Dating Site
Some online dating sites like OkCupid allow you to change your relationship status. You can also adjust what you’re looking for; before you and your significant other sit down and talk, you may want to go to the site and change that you’re not looking for short-term or long-term dating but only friendship.
9. Tell Other Prospects That You’re Taken
If you were in the middle of talking with a number of prospects but your current sweetie snapped you up just in the nick of time, it’s polite to let them know you’re with someone else now. Of course, this isn’t crucial. If you think that you’ll only get bad reactions, excessive questions, or other pestering, you don’t owe anyone anything except your partner.
8. Stop Logging in
Once you’ve wrapped up those loose ends on the site, stop logging in. Don’t just preemptively disable or delete your account yet. Wait until you speak with your partner. However, if you’re always on the site and your significant other logs on and sees this, it could hurt their feelings.
7. Wait as Long as You’re Comfortable to Bring up the Topic
Some people may want to talk about deleting online dating accounts as soon as they become official. Others may prefer to wait longer, perhaps a few months until the relationship is really established. Only have this conversation when you’re ready to.
6. Don’t be Pushy
When you open this line of dialogue with your partner, make sure that you’re gentle about it. Don’t present ultimatums, as this could surprise and offend your significant other. They should want to get rid of their account as much as you do. If you’re getting a lot of opposition, you may want to rethink becoming exclusive.
5. Suggest Mutually Shutting down Profiles Together
Although it’s harsh, some people say that they will delete their online dating profile and then never do. You may suggest that you and your sweetie shut down your accounts together in the same place at the same time.
4. Hear Your Partner out
Your partner may not be entirely comfortable with deleting your profiles together. Again, don’t push. In the end, it just matters that the account is gone, not how it’s done. Listen to your significant other’s concerns and address them accordingly.
3. Delete Your Account
However you decide to do it, get rid of your account. Remember that disabling keeps your account information but takes it offline until you want it back. To truly purge your profile, you need to delete it. You should get a confirmation email on most dating sites letting you know that your account is history.
2. Resist the Urge to Stalk
If you and your partner didn’t trash your accounts together, it’s important that you don’t keep logging on to the site looking for their profile. Of course, your new love shouldn’t wait forever to delete their account. You need to trust that they’ll do it in time though.
1. Enjoy Your Relationship
With that little matter taken care of, you two can now embark on a happy, healthy relationship together. Enjoy all the milestones ahead.