The elusive spark: it’s something that everyone wants with another human being in a relationship. Once you find it, it’s imperative that you maintain it, or else your marriage (or even long-term relationship) will begin to feel stale, boring, and lifeless. If you and your spouse still love each other but maybe don’t feel as in love as you’d prefer, follow these tips. They will reintroduce some passion, fun, and sexiness back into your bond.
10. Start at the Beginning
Chances are, you probably very fondly and vividly remember that first date with your spouse. You were likely quite nervous and felt that familiar elation of butterflies in your stomach. Revisit those feelings by going back to the locale where you two had your first date. Don’t try to recreate the moment, but instead appreciate how far you’ve come while thinking back on those beautiful early moments.
9. View Mementos from Early Dates
Once you two go back home, continue the trip down memory lane by looking at any mementos that you held onto during your first dates together. Items may include movie ticket stubs, museum passes, restaurant memorabilia, or souvenirs of any kind. Allow yourself to feel a little nostalgic and urge your spouse to do the same.
8. Change up Your Look
If your marriage is in a rut, it never hurts to give yourself a makeover. You don’t have to change every facet of your appearance; far from it. A new haircut or color or a nice outfit bought off the rack can really change how you see yourself and how your spouse sees you.
7. Write Love Notes
In a world of text messaging and other prevalent online communication, handwritten notes mean so much more. If you don’t have the time or aptitude to sit down and write a whole love letter, opt for some love notes instead. These can just be small little reminders of how much you love your spouse. They will go a long way.
6. Watch Footage of the Wedding
Whether your wedding was one year ago or 10, it still stands as the happiest and most important day of your life. Go back and re-watch the footage that your friends, family, and professional videographers captured of the big day. You and your spouse can bond and maybe even get some anniversary ideas.
5. Get Away
If everything about your routine feels stale, change it up by planning a trip away together. It doesn’t have to be a full-blown vacation if that’s not in the budget. Instead, a weekend getaway has the same benefits but won’t cost nearly as much.
4. Plan Date Nights
If you and your spouse only see each other at home after work these days, it’s time to change that. This weekend, plan a date night. It doesn’t have to be out to an opera or a five-star restaurant, but do try to make it nice. Dress up and prepare for a night on the town with the love of your life.
3. Listen to Special Music Together
You and your spouse of course have a song, whether it was one that you’ve listened to since you first met or even your wedding theme. Music can be very powerful. This saccharine tune can evoke romantic and loving feelings. It’s even better if you both sit down and listen to the song together, maybe even while sipping some wine.
2. Try a New Hobby or Activity
It’s been proven that doing new hobbies and activities together can promote bonding in a relationship or marriage. If you two always do the dinner and a movie routine, do something else. The more thrilling, the closer you two will feel, even if that just means visiting an amusement park.
1. Renew Your Vows
Lastly, to reinforce your love and remind yourself and each other why you two committed to marriage, renewing your vows is a great option. You don’t need to have a fancy ceremony like you did for your wedding; rather, keep it small and invite a treasured circle of friends and family.
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