Online dating is one of the safest ways to find out about someone you know. Here is some advice you can follow.
Understand the tone of the profile
We can’t see facial expression, or grasp the inflections of people’s voices online, but if we use our instincts we can understand the tone of what others are trying to express. Certain words and phrases, or the way people say things will give us a hint of who they are. Look for attitudes of those you would be encouraged to spend time with. Tone gives you an inside edge on what others tend to keep hidden.
Don’t mind self-evaluation
When people describe themselves as kind, perky, intellectual or optimistic this may be completely true – but only online. The way a person views themselves is not always what they portray to others. It’s not that they are lying outright, but they can’t see themselves as other people do. The real factors you can rely on are the information that is basic, ex. job, age, location. Qualities are not reliable items to depend on. People can and will exaggerate.
Don’t rely on looks alone
Your dream woman or dream man may just remain that – a dream. A lot of people tend to put too much face value on what a person looks like, or what they say about themselves. The only way to get to know a person is by communicating with them. Facial expressions, body language and other components during the real dating process help you to make up your mind as to whether you want to pursue the relationship or not. Meeting in real life also shows the persons personal habits, manners and how they feel about other people.
Don’t fantasize
This may be extremely difficult to do especially if the person is charming (outwardly) or very attractive physically. Don’t rush into a relationship based on a few online conversations and what you imagine. Real relationships take time and getting to know a person takes patience. If you truly value the person and you want to make the best impression, go slowly. If you are too aggressive or too pushy, you just might scare the person away – for good. If they want to move more slowly go at their pace. If it’s meant to be it will be well worth your while to wait in the long run.
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