When Nudists and Non-Nudists Date

It is not uncommon for a non-nudist and nudist to feel a common attraction to each other. The problem usually arises with familiarity and the desire to participate together in activities. Non-nudists have more adjustments, so this is directed mostly to the unitiated:

• Don’t form an opinion about naturism without depth research to learn the cause and effect for following the lifestyle.
  • Acknowledge private clubs, secluded beaches and conventions for naturists to practice nude lifestyle.
  • Understand sex is not the lure of nudism, but being at one with nature and totally free.
  • Nudist families complete with generations get together in public or private places to embrace nature.

1. You have no opinion whatsoever. If you have never known nudists, you might not have any opinion for or against the lifestyle. Nudists and nons can date, but the nudist is nude privately.
2. You’re uncomfortable with nudism. Decide if you are uncomfortable around the date only when nude while you are not, or if the feelings of unrest are constant.
3. You’re curious about the lifestyle. You don’t want to join the naturist revolution just yet but you’re curious and interested. Ask questions.

Have a discussion. Include hang ups. If this relationship is going anywhere, you have to question and put your feelings on the table. Choose an appropriate time/place to have the discussion, and when your date is not nude, so you two can focus on the topic instead of a lack of clothing on one of you.

• Determine what about nudism bothers you greatest. Are you troubled by nudism generally or does your date have what you feel are inappropriate nudism behavior?
• Decide which factors you can tolerate. If you really like the naturist date and want to continue dating him or her:
  1. Establish times when nudism is off limits. If you aren’t into nature but believe the relationship is one you want to keep, develop rules giving you both comfort zones.
  2. Identify situations where you are okay with naturism without hang ups. This is not all about you. Let your date know when you feel comfortable about your date getting naked.
• Acceptance of another’s outlook on life doesn’t mean that you need to participate wholeheartedly. Different pastimes, attitudes and outlooks create dynamic and exciting relationships. Neither should pass judgment nor feel compelled to join in any activity. What does make or break the partnership is open hearted acceptance and not putting the other person down.