Online dating works for people who eliminate myths that try to stand in the way of getting that perfect match. First, how much emphasis are you putting on the profile? Are you looking for unacceptable information and other problems? You are certain to find pieces of information that you just don’t like or that you may think is really odd on everyone’s profile, but don’t stop there. If you like the rest of it, give the person a chance to explain the glitch you have discovered. You will probably find a reasonable explanation, and if not, “there are plenty more fish in the sea,” said a well-known online dater.
Toss out expectations about how a man should “court” online or how the process should work with you. The other person in this exchange may not react exactly the way you have always planned, but work with it. If he should send you his phone number asking you to call anytime, but you have always preferred the man to call first; don’t write him off. Be assertive and let him know in a polite but direct manner that you prefer the man to make the first call. Then add your phone number, and see what happens. If he doesn’t call, well, he’s off the list. But if he does – great start!
Don’t assume that the other person must have everything on their list. Some people put down everything they could possibly dream for in a mate, just in case that dream girl or guy is actually out there. But since the chances of that are pretty slim, no one really believes that their new date has everything. You probably have some gifts and talents they hadn’t thought of. No one wastes their time sending emails if they aren’t interested by what they saw in the profile. So, give up the idea that you have to be anywhere near perfect, and have fun.
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