Have you ever wondered how to attract a man? But not just any man – you want to attract your ideal man. The kind of guy who is interested in the same things that you are and who wants to do the same things you do. It’s not as hard as it might seem on the surface. Here are some ways to attract your kind of guy:

5. Know What You Want

The sounds easy, but it is one of the hardest aspects of dating. It is easy to confuse lust, attraction, and attachment but they are distinctly different things. The person you lust after may not be the person you want to be attached to long term. Their motivations, goals, and potential for longevity are different and as a woman who is empowered to make change in her life, it is important that you consider that before even looking for a mate. Where lust and attraction are centered on the way you feel when you are near, look at, or think about a person, attachment is the conscious decision to pursue a relationship either because the person would be a good provider, a stable mate, or whatever other criteria you employ to gauge them. Knowing the difference in what you are feeling is important.

4. Be Attractive

This doesn’t mean you need to rush out and get your hair done, nor does it mean that you have to wear a form-fitting outfit. While that may be attractive to some people, contrary to what the media would have you believe, it is not the be all and end for everyone. Being attractive is a state of mind, not a consequence of going to the salon or going on a shopping spree.

3. Do you want to lead or follow?

Decide which you would rather do. Do you want to be in a leadership role in your relationship or are you more comfortable acquiescing to your partner’s needs? Knowing this bit about yourself is important in more ways than one. It will help you position yourself in the right places and activities top meet the type of men you want a relationship with and it will help you know the role that you are more interested in once a relationship blossoms.

2. Look the Part

There is nothing more off-putting than a woman who doesn’t know how to look the part for the situation she’s in. If you are going to a baseball game, don’t show up in expensive heels and gaudy jewelry. Men like a women that is down to earth and knows how to dress for the occasion – whatever it may be. Someone who is perpetually overdressed sends the message that they are trying to draw attention to their looks when there is so much more to a person than that.

1. Be Pretty

For an article that talks about not relying on clothing, makeup, and hair to get a man, this section seems ill placed initially, but read on. There’s a method to my madness. Pretty come in different forms. Dressed up for the club can be pretty. But so can your hair pulled back in a ponytail in sweats. Let your inner glow shine no matter what you are wearing. Your personality is what makes you pretty. Let is shine everywhere you go.

Remember this: you are gorgeous. Attractiveness is gauged by what is on the inside – the outside is purely eye candy. Let your natural beauty radiate and you’ll find that attracting a man isn’t as difficult as you once thought. Taking control of the process – know what you want and go for it.